In many societies especially across Africa, including Rwanda, a wedding is not just a ceremony. It’s a cultural spectacle, a family statement, and increasingly, a social competition. Today’s weddings are no longer about two people making a vow; they’ve become full-blown productions, complete with luxury décor, professional choreographers, matching bridal squads, and Instagram-worthy aesthetics.
But here’s the harsh truth: many couples are broke, jobless, or barely surviving financially but still feel compelled to throw multi-million-franc weddings. Why? Because social expectations are unforgiving. No one wants to be the talk of the village or the punchline of a family group chat.
Let’s be real: young people are getting married with more pressure and less money than ever before. In a society where image matters deeply, some feel forced to “keep up appearances.” Parents want to show they raised their children well, families compete over who can host the most glamorous event, and friends have developed standards from what they see on TikTok and Instagram where even engagement parties look like Grammy after-parties.
To meet these expectations, couples turn to borrowing, taking loans, or selling off personal assets. Some go as far as borrowing money from banks or spending savings meant for their honeymoon or future home. The financial strain doesn’t just hit once, it lingers. After the big day, newlyweds often find themselves starting marriage not with peace, but with stress, debts, and arguments.
Worse still, no one talks about it. Everyone claps and takes selfies at the wedding, but no one’s there when you’re trying to pay off the credit card or rent because you overspent on imported flowers and LED screens.
But there’s hope. A growing number of couples are embracing modesty and creativity. Backyard weddings, intimate receptions, and minimalistic designs are gaining popularity. These celebrations are not only affordable but often more meaningful and personal.
Some are even choosing to marry legally at city halls and save the celebration for later or not at all. And guess what? That’s perfectly okay. A wedding should never be a financial suicide mission. It’s supposed to be a celebration of commitment, not a display of status.
The irony? People will forget the decorations, the wine, and the designer dress but they’ll remember how loved and welcomed they felt.
Final thought: If your love is real, it doesn’t need to be dressed in diamonds. Start your journey smart, not broke. Let your marriage shine brighter than your wedding.
Brenna AKARABO
RADIOTV10
