In the past decade, the term “women empowerment” has become one of the most talked-about subjects across the world and Rwanda is no exception. From campaigns that encourage girls to stay in school, to women taking leadership positions in politics and business, the progress has been remarkable. But as the conversation continues to grow, some people have started asking a difficult question: Is empowerment truly about equality, or is it slowly turning into competition and disrespect between men and women?
The True Meaning of Empowerment
At its core, women empowerment means giving women the freedom and opportunity to make their own choices whether in education, work, or personal life. It is about ensuring that women have equal access to resources, rights, and respect, just like men do.
In Rwanda, this idea has taken strong root. Today, women make up over 60% of the parliament, the highest percentage in the world. Many Rwandan women are business owners, engineers, doctors, journalists, and even construction workers. It’s proof that empowering women can truly transform a society.
Where Things Get Misunderstood
However, some people feel that the empowerment message has been misinterpreted, especially among the younger generation. What was meant to encourage equality is, in some cases, being taken as a competition with men.
We sometimes hear statements like “I don’t need a man,” or “Men are the problem.” While these might come from a place of frustration with gender inequality, they can easily create tension. Real empowerment should not mean looking down on the other gender, it should mean walking side by side, respecting each other’s roles and strengths.
A truly empowered woman does not need to prove she is better than a man. She simply needs to know her worth, use her voice, and work confidently without belittling anyone else. Likewise, empowered men should support strong women, not feel threatened by them.
Men’s Role in the Conversation
For a long time, gender-related programs focused mainly on women, which was necessary given the historical imbalance. But as we move forward, it’s important to include men in the empowerment journey.
When men understand that empowerment is not an attack on them, but rather a step toward a fairer world, they become allies instead of opponents. Many men today proudly support their wives, sisters, and daughters in pursuing careers and education. That’s what real balance looks like teamwork, not rivalry.
Equality Doesn’t Mean Sameness
Another misunderstanding is thinking that equality means men and women must be exactly the same. Equality actually means equal value not necessarily equal roles. A woman can be a leader, a mother, or both. A man can be a provider, a caregiver, or both. What matters most is respect and shared understanding.
Every gender has strengths that, when combined, make society stronger. Women bring empathy, organization, and emotional intelligence to leadership. Men often bring physical strength, focus, and boldness. Together, they balance each other like two wings of a bird that must work together to fly.
The Way Forward
To keep empowerment meaningful, we need to refocus on its original purpose: balance, not battle. This starts in homes, where boys and girls should both be taught respect and confidence. Schools and workplaces should encourage cooperation rather than competition between genders.
Social media also plays a big role. Influencers and activists should use their platforms to promote respect, teamwork, and positive feminism not hate or superiority. The goal is not to say “women are better,” but “women and men are equally important.”
Conclusion
Women empowerment has opened doors that were once closed, and that progress should never be taken for granted. However, as we continue to push for equality, we must be careful not to create division in the name of empowerment.
True empowerment uplifts everyone. It teaches women to believe in themselves and men to respect and support that growth. At the end of the day, equality should not make one gender lose value, it should help both rise together. Because when women rise, so does the whole community.
Brenna AKARABO
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